10 tips for beating the blues…
Dear Desi: Do you have a quick tool for when my mind goes to sad or negative thoughts?
There is no magic pill to fix sad feelings. Sometimes situations arise that are outside of our control, such as the illness of a loved one. The good news is that we can do some simple things when emotions hit that will help us get through the day, or even the hour.
First, if you haven’t read it (or listened to the audio book), I highly recommend Jeanne Nangle’s 8 Simple Thinking Habits. A great resource for great thinking.
Next, here is a list of my top 10 favorite tools for beating the blues:
1. Stop pretending everything is ok when it’s not. No need for big drama here, just say to yourself or a loved one I feel [insert emotion] right now.
2. Don’t try to be the fixer or the victim, just be totally authentically you. Brene Brown said it best: “Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”
3. Breathe. Yep, breathe. Focus on your breath place a hand on your stomach as air fills the belly and then releases.
4. Listen to Music on repeat. Let a favorite song get stuck in your head and take over for awhile.
5. Practice Mindfulness – bring your focus to the here and now stop thinking of the past and the future. Look only at what is in front of you, keep saying the words “right now”.
6. Move your body. Stand up, sit down, stretch your arms, kick your legs up, wiggle your wrists. Just move.
7. Clench and release one muscle group at a time moving from head to toe. As you clench think of the stressor and hold it for as long as possible and then release. (This is also good to do in coordination with breath).
8. Go for a walk.
9. Journal – give voice to all of your thoughts emotions through the written word. Don’t judge what’s written just let the flood gates open.
10. Write a thank you card to acknowledge something that is working well in your life no matter how seemingly small.