Living in Truth
Dear Desi, I find myself struggling with the concept of how some people struggle while living in truth and some just fall into grace while having no integrity.
This question seriously makes me laugh. We’ve all witnessed people getting rewarded for doing the wrong thing. The cheater who wins the race with no consequences or the liar who gets believed with the truth teller is called a liar. Books and movies have been written around this idea for ages.
But, here’s the thing. It happens. So, what. Oh, yes, I said it. So, what. You read that right. Sometimes people are going to get rewarded for the wrong thing and it does not matter.
The only thing that matters is whether we hold ourselves accountable to our best lives. If we are struggling in our relationships, our finances, or in other ways then we have do our own life inventory. Watching other people get away with stuff, does nothing for our well being. Instead of worrying about what they are winning, or losing, start focusing on what is working in your own life. Start noticing the every day magic, like when someone opens the door for you or a friend sends you a happy face emoji.
Those of us who practice meditation, mindfulness, and kindness love to think we are living in our truth. Yet, sometimes we can still deceive ourselves. We often pretend that everything is ok, when actually some part of ourselves feels abandoned, or undeserving, or ignored. If it seems like someone you know is receiving grace, it could be because they carry no shame on their actions. It is not for us to decide what they should feel, that is their business. It is on us, to decide how we feel – and we can only feel our best when we are honoring every aspect of ourselves.
Whether or not someone else is in/out of Integrity is not our business. The only thing that matters is whether we are being honest with ourselves about what we want and need. If you are suffering in any aspect of your life, you need to begin the act of self-reflection.
– What am I not doing that I deeply desire?
– How well do my actions line up with what I believe?
– What good things happened to me today, this week, this month?
– Who can I thank for their support, kindness or generosity?
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. – Leonardo da Vinci