Desi Aragon

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Manifesting or Manipulating?

A colleague of mind has a powerful ability to make her desires come true. Let me give you some examples. She began visualizing a specific type of car, imagined what it would it feel like to drive this sporty vehicle. Shortly thereafter, she acquired a car that matched her vision perfectly. Another time, she visualized a beautiful sand vacation with her husband. She considered how good it would feel to enjoy the beach, the water, and time away. A few days later, she received an email invitation to do work at a hotel in beach vacation spot. She got paid to go to a premium destination worked for a few hours and spent the remaining days soaking up the sun. Yep. She is THAT awesome at making her dreams manifest.
A colleague of mind has a powerful ability to make her desires come true. Let me give you some examples. She began visualizing a specific type of car, imagined what it would it feel like to drive this sporty vehicle. Shortly thereafter, she acquired a car that matched her vision perfectly. Another time, she visualized a beautiful sand vacation with her husband. She considered how good it would feel to enjoy the beach, the water, and time away. A few days later, she received an email invitation to do work at a hotel in beach vacation spot. She got paid to go to a premium destination worked for a few hours and spent the remaining days soaking up the sun. Yep. She is THAT awesome at making her dreams manifest.

I love the idea of manifesting. Visualizing something desired, and imagining what it will look and feel like when it is actually happening. Lately I have been wondering about the difference between manifesting and manipulating. Both are considered skills and both focus on influence for one’s own personal gain. Manifestation is about bringing forth a desired outcome into reality. When we attempt to manipulate a situation, aren’t we doing the same thing?

Last year our family made a decision to downsize and sold our large home. The house sold so quickly we did not have time to find the right new property. With the real estate contingency looming we felt pressure to find a new home. In an attempt to control the situation we actually put an offer on a condo (manipulation). We felt scared at the prospect of being without a home of our own and thought of every possible way we could maybe make the condo work. Thank goodness we held a vision for what we ACTUALLY wanted (manifestation). The condo owner declined our offer, and later that same day, a new property listing showed up on the real estate master listing service. Every time we drive by that condo, we thank our lucky stars.

I think we manifest the very thing we put out. If you’re putting out negativity, then you’re going to retrieve that same sentiment. If you emanate joy, it comes back to you. – Robin Wright

They key differences between manipulation and manifestation seem to be related to control and attachment. When my colleague manifested her car she let go of the attachment to the brand of car and simply focused on the feeling it would offer when driving. Her trip was the same, she did not try to control how or where the trip would happen. By letting go of the specifics and instead focusing how she ultimately wants to feel, she was able to make her dreams manifest.

The other day, I faced a situation that was causing some serious reflection. In talking with my Fearlessness Coach, Tracy Preciado, she asked, “are you feeling manipulated?” Immediately truth tears began to fall. She nailed it. Here’s the catch: if I am feeling manipulated I have to own up to the idea that maybe I have been manipulating. In order to identify where or how I had been manipulating, it required me to consider the concepts of control and attachment. Have I become attached to how things how supposed to happen? Have I asserted my way into a situation? Am I trying to force things to happen? Am I truly open and receptive to ALL possibilities?

Invite nice people back. – Richard Branson

I recently saw a post from Richard Branson describing his 1972 goals. One of his goals was to learn to fly. Pretty fascinating that eventually this would evolve into ownership in Virgin Airlines. It seems like Richard is powerful at manifesting. And, there is something distinctly free and open in his 1972 list. It does not describe every detail of how and when these things will occur. It simply lists what he would like to have happen; new projects, more stores, and nice people.

The time has come for me to review and maybe even expand some of my own lists. To celebrate what has made manifest and to visualize how it will FEEL to achieve those stated desires that are still outstanding. I am ready to let go of control and attachment to the specifics.

Timing is a funny thing and it is somehow always right. Just after drafting this blog post, I participated in a telephone planning session with In Her Image Photography.

Just after drafting this blog post, I participated in a telephone planning session with In Her Image Photography. Due to the unique conditions of the shoot, we were facing an unknown variable. One of the principle photographers, Heidi, reminded me that all we need to do is be fully present. If we let go of the focus on the outcome and just enjoy the experience everything will work out. It always does.

Going back to the condo story above, for a few minutes my husband and I forgot to enjoy the experience of searching for our new right home. Out of desperation and fear we tried to make something happen. When that forced offer was declined it gave us permission to breathe and remember what we wanted and hours later our next right home made manifest.

Taking it all into consideration, maybe it is not so much about the difference between manipulating and manifesting. Maybe it is actually about recognizing the difference between focusing on the future vs. being present to the experiences life wants us to enjoy right now. Let us embrace today with joy and ease.

I love the idea of manifesting. Visualizing something desired, and imagining what it will look and feel like when it is actually happening. Lately I have been wondering about the difference between manifesting and manipulating. Both are considered skills and both focus on influence for one’s own personal gain. Manifestation is about bringing forth a desired outcome into reality. When we attempt to manipulate a situation, aren’t we doing the same thing?

Last year our family made a decision to downsize and sold our large home. The house sold so quickly we did not have time to find the right new property. With the real estate contingency looming we felt pressure to find a new home. In an attempt to control the situation we actually put an offer on a condo (manipulation). We felt scared at the prospect of being without a home of our own and thought of every possible way we could maybe make the condo work. Thank goodness we held a vision for what we ACTUALLY wanted (manifestation). The condo owner declined our offer, and later that same day, a new property listing showed up on the real estate master listing service. Every time we drive by that condo, we thank our lucky stars.

I think we manifest the very thing we put out. If you’re putting out negativity, then you’re going to retrieve that same sentiment. If you emanate joy, it comes back to you. – Robin Wright

They key differences between manipulation and manifestation seem to be related to control and attachment. When my colleague manifested her car she let go of the attachment to the brand of car and simply focused on the feeling it would offer when driving. Her trip was the same, she did not try to control how or where the trip would happen. By letting go of the specifics and instead focusing how she ultimately wants to feel, she was able to make her dreams manifest.

The other day, I faced a situation that was causing some serious reflection. In talking with my Fearlessness Coach, Tracy Preciado, she asked, “are you feeling manipulated?” Immediately truth tears began to fall. She nailed it. Here’s the catch: if I am feeling manipulated I have to own up to the idea that maybe I have been manipulating. In order to identify where or how I had been manipulating, it required me to consider the concepts of control and attachment. Have I become attached to how things how supposed to happen? Have I asserted my way into a situation? Am I trying to force things to happen? Am I truly open and receptive to ALL possibilities?

Invite nice people back. – Richard Branson

I recently saw a post from Richard Branson describing his 1972 goals. One of his goals was to learn to fly. Pretty fascinating that eventually this would evolve into ownership in Virgin Airlines. It seems like Richard is powerful at manifesting. And, there is something distinctly free and open in his 1972 list. It does not describe every detail of how and when these things will occur. It simply lists what he would like to have happen; new projects, more stores, and nice people.

The time has come for me to review and maybe even expand some of my own lists. To celebrate what has made manifest and to visualize how it will FEEL to achieve those stated desires that are still outstanding. I am ready to let go of control and attachment to the specifics.

Timing is a funny thing and it is somehow always right. Just after drafting this blog post, I participated in a telephone planning session with In Her Image Photography.

Just after drafting this blog post, I participated in a telephone planning session with In Her Image Photography. Due to the unique conditions of the shoot, we were facing an unknown variable. One of the principle photographers, Heidi, reminded me that all we need to do is be fully present. If we let go of the focus on the outcome and just enjoy the experience everything will work out. It always does.

Going back to the condo story above, for a few minutes my husband and I forgot to enjoy the experience of searching for our new right home. Out of desperation and fear we tried to make something happen. When that forced offer was declined it gave us permission to breathe and remember what we wanted and hours later our next right home made manifest.

Taking it all into consideration, maybe it is not so much about the difference between manipulating and manifesting. Maybe it is actually about recognizing the difference between focusing on the future vs. being present to the experiences life wants us to enjoy right now. Let us embrace today with joy and ease.

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